Why Relationships Matter

Oct 29, 2017

 Words by Tia Myers-Rocker

Now that you’re in college, people from all over the country are suddenly in close proximity to you. Some of these people are in your classroom or dorm.

Hopefully you see this as an opportunity to get connected to those around you … or not.

But, and this is a strong one, if you choose to explore a relationship, why not try the people closest to you? I don’t mean the friends you came here with or the roommate who is sharing a dorm with you. That’s too easy.

I’m talking about the people who have the same major as you, the same interests or those who have nothing in common with you. Wouldn’t that be an exciting challenge? Game on.

“The most basic human desire is to feel like you belong. Fitting in is important,” author Simon Sinek said.

I don’t agree that “fitting in is important,” but I see the value in his first statement.

Kent State has a big campus filled with a lot of people and it’s easy to feel like just a number. That is why building relationships is so important. When you have ways to engage, such as hanging out, studying, partying and laughing, you feel like you belong.

If you remember, I encouraged you to make friends and join organizations in another piece. Now, I’m telling you to solidify those relationships so they are deep and meaningful.

“The strong bond of friendship is not always a balanced equation; friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares. Instead, friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there for you when you need something, no matter what or when,” Sinek said.

Who do you trust on campus? Who can you talk to when classes get hard and you want to drop out? Would you call the friends you’ve had since your freshman year that you joined a sorority with? I hope so.

When you are feeling down and the stress of it is too much, turn to a person, not a device, a drug or a bottle.

“Many kids don’t know how to form deep, meaningful relationships. Their words, not mine,” Sinek said. “They will admit that many of their relationships are superficial. They will admit that they rely, can’t rely, on their friends.”

Having deep, meaning relationships helps improve your college experience. The best part is that you can carry those friendships into your adult life until you all have families of your own.

College is the best place to form those bonds because you have access to people going into the same field as you or involved in the same organizations.

Look around. The people who you spend hours a day with could be the deep and meaningful relationships that are needed in your life.

Tia Myers-Rocker is a blogger, contact her at tmyersro@kent.edu.