My Thoughts on The Bachelor

Mar 8, 2018

Words by Alexa Marco

There are two kinds of people in this world: Those who love watching “The Bachelor” and those who don’t.

On March 25, 2002, “The Bachelor” first aired on ABC. I was five. I don’t necessarily remember watching the first season of “The Bachelor,” but I do know it was definitely on in my home. OK, so most people have mixed emotions about watching a man/woman date 28 people over the span of two months while handing out roses to those they want to spend more time with.

From the moment I was old enough to comprehend what was happening in the show, I have almost always picked out which women the Bachelor will choose as his final five. Watching this show every Monday was the highlight of my week throughout elementary, middle and high school and even now in college. Each week, my mom and I would kick my brother and dad out of the family room to have girls’ night and indulge in some reality TV.

The 22nd season of “The Bachelor” just had its season finale. Yes, this show has lasted 22 seasons and will most likely not be coming to an end any time soon. I understand the concept of the show is ridiculous and a tad demeaning.

Nonetheless, I find myself rooting for a handful of girls each season to steal the heart of the show’s leading man. The host of “The Bachelor,” Chris Harrison, is known for his recurring statement of “THIS is the most dramatic season ever!” Each season, it seems as if he is right; each season gets more controversial and better. With Arie Luyendyk as “The Bachelor” this season, things were actually rather boring with the exception of the show’s villain, Krystal. I say “villain” because it’s reality TV, people! There must be a villain in order to maintain the audience’s attention span in this rather dull season. However, after Krystal was sent home, the drama died down and different problems arose.

Arie found himself in a sticky situation this year as he fell in love with both of his final two women. The women were polar opposites, which probably made Arie’s decision even harder. Is it possible to be in love with two people? I personally think, in the moment, it is easy to say you are in love with two people at the same time, but in hindsight, you realize only one of the two had your heart from the beginning. This brings me into the dramatic events which unfolded in the season finale.

After choosing the strong, confident Becca and proposing to her, Arie realized that he just couldn’t get the other woman off his mind, resulting in him breaking off the engagement and running back to his runner-up, Lauren. I can’t blame Arie for following his heart and doing what he needed to do.

HOWEVER, I do blame the show for how this all went down. Host Chris Harrison and the rest of the production team decided to film the entire breakup and air it on national television. During each promotion for the finale, the headline, “First ever unedited scene on reality TV!” As Americans, this intrigues us, and we can’t help but tune in to watch the events play out live. But how far is too far?

The entire scene of Arie breaking off his engagement is basically Becca sitting there in shock and then walking around the house crying as Arie follows her with his tail between his legs pleading for her to talk. “The Bachelor” production staff undoubtedly chose to show this entire scene for over an hour in hopes that America would feel sorry for Becca and promote her as the next “Bachelorette.”

HELLO! America would have felt bad for the poor girl either way. We didn’t need to watch the girl in agony for 60 minutes.

I chose to write about “The Bachelor” this week because I am appalled that reality TV has resulted in exploiting real, broken emotions in order to roll in more viewers and money. Don’t get me wrong, I will for sure be continuing with my “Bachelor” addiction; but I hope that ABC doesn’t feel the need to overdo a finale like they did this season.