Connect with us

Writer Meets Therapist

FEATURES

Writer Meets Therapist

In this series, the writer dares to discuss the purpose of life and the importance of relationships as well as address topics that are typically considered taboo. She speaks honestly about her own mental health and embraces vulnerability in her writing. Follow this extravert’s journey as she dives into the intricacies of life and reconnects them to her perspectives, as an only daughter to a single parent, an international student brought up in the unique culture of Malaysia, a woman, a fighter, a narrator of her stories and a character to the bigger story, commonly known as life.

Session #1: Privacy

I’m prepared—or at least, I hoped I was. I’ve taken precautions, such as avoiding onions prior to the session and armored myself with waterproof mascara. Seated stiffly on the cushions in the lounge, I felt anxiety similar to that at the dentist’s or waiting on a Tinder date (although I only speak from personal experience for one of them). 

What if my therapist looked like my ex? (Once again, I speak from hypothetical experience) Will I instinctively recoil at the sight of an overgrown beard? On the contrary, what if my therapist looked like one of my parents? How will I resist blabbering like the conceited child I’ve been? My greatest questions centered around the fact that I may release more information than necessary, and that is without the onions. How much do I share about myself? Where do I draw the line? How do I define privacy? These are the spectrums I’ve drawn out as I partake in the journey of discovering what privacy means to me:

Too outspoken vs. too private

How much is too much? Should the entire session be filled with my thoughts? On one hand, I’m thrilled to let my therapist into my head so that she’d understand my oh-so-important ideas. On the other hand, I’d be ruining my reputation among my circle of friends as one of the best secret-keepers around.

My thoughts: Therapy sessions are a paramount time to pause and reflect. Be as honest as you’re comfortable being. It’s a time for you to breathe, recollect your thoughts and talk about where you are in life. Nobody’s here to judge.

Too self-absorbed vs. too self-deprecating

Am I being too egoistic by talking about myself for far too long? I’d caught enough hints—thanks to my dear elder cousins—that I’d hogged all attention during reunion dinners (hey, I can’t help basking in the consequences of being youngest!). Jokes aside, I admittedly indulge in self-deprecating humor. Is that unhealthy?

My thoughts: Talk to your therapist! After all, they’re here to listen; shoutout to my therapist for being such a patient human being! If you’re naturally expressive and love projecting your thoughts, the session shouldn’t be a problem for you, but it won’t hurt to turn it into a dynamic conversation either. As for me, I worry about being that bad friend who only calls up to complain. My personal growth comes in learning to be more open than to suppress my thoughts. Either way, your therapist will be glad to work this one out with you!

Too weird vs. too boring

Does this sound too dramatic? Or, are my stories too mundane? Being raised in a community in which mental health is still stigmatized, my first step to understanding mental health was acknowledging that my personal perspective matters. Therapy sessions run parallel to my journaling experience. On some days, there isn’t much to mull over, and that’s okay. In fact, I’m grateful enough for the plot twists that reality has already presented to me. Other times, there’s truth in Taylor Swift’s songs because, “I swear I don’t love the drama, it loves me.”

My thoughts: There are two facts to set straight: each of us has our own quirks, and every one of our emotions deserves to be acknowledged. We truly are storytellers by nature, even if we don’t admit it. When recounting an event, it’s hard not to mix the two up or avoid bias. Yet, there’s nothing wrong with telling the truth as seen in your perspective. As much as I love my family, an outsider’s perspective can be immensely helpful. 

My therapist enters, her hair in beautiful braids and smile-lined eyes. She reminded me of calming lavender tea and squished hugs from my curly-haired best friend back at home. Sure enough, we discovered that we have the same favorite colors. I breathed a sigh of relief. 

P.S. If you’re still unconvinced about the benefits of therapy sessions, allow me to shamelessly recommend NPR’s LifeKit episode about “How To Start Therapy.”

SUPPORT STUDENT MEDIA

Hi, I’m Holly Liptak, a senior journalism student from Akron and the editor-in-chief of The Burr this semester. My staff and I are committed to bringing you interesting, humorous and hard-hitting stories that tap into current events, trends and the lives of those who have made a home in Kent, Ohio. We are full-time students and hard-working journalists. While we get support from the student media fee and earned revenue such as advertising, both of those continue to decline. Your generous gift of any amount will help enhance our student experience as we grow into working professionals. Please go here to donate.

Continue Reading
Click to comment

You must be logged in to post a comment Login

Leave a Reply

More in FEATURES

Facebook

Trending

Staff Playlists

Playlists

Playlist: Heartbreak Songs

By February 27, 2021

Playlists

Playlist: On Our Radar

By February 13, 2021

Playlists

Playlist: The End Of An Era

By December 12, 2020

Playlists

Playlist: The End of The World

By December 5, 2020

Playlists

Playlist: Moments In Movies

By November 14, 2020

Recent Stories

Season of Justice

Evelyn Kay Day

By May 11, 2021

Entertainment Analysis

Dead Poets Society

By May 11, 2021

The Art Outlet

My Journey As An Artist

By May 5, 2021

Celestial Conversations

Taurus Season

By May 5, 2021

Talking With Taylor

Trying Budget-Friendly Recipes

By April 30, 2021

Picture Books Aren't Just For Kids

Bridge To Terabithia

By April 29, 2021

A Step Forward

A Step Forward #6

By April 27, 2021

Season of Justice

Esther Hollis And “Crime Junkie”

By April 26, 2021

FEATURES

Off The Hook

By April 23, 2021

Greetings from the Burr Magazine

Black Lives Matter: Moving Forward

By April 7, 2021

Celestial Conversations

April Forecast!

By April 6, 2021

GUEST BLOGGERS

Kent Love Blooms Every Spring

By April 5, 2021

Picture Books Aren't Just For Kids

“Charlotte’s Web”

By April 1, 2021

Real, Good, Human

Feed Your Soul, Feed Your Pocket

By March 31, 2021

A Step Forward

A Step Forward #5

By March 30, 2021

Celestial Conversations

What Do The Planets Represent In Astrology?

By March 23, 2021

GUEST BLOGGERS

Coffee Connoisseur

By March 22, 2021

Talking With Taylor

Ways I Relieve Stress

By March 19, 2021

Talking With Taylor

Ways I Relieve Stress

By March 19, 2021

Picture Books Aren't Just For Kids

The Books of Roald Dahl

By March 18, 2021

A Step Forward

A Step Forward #4

By March 17, 2021

Real, Good, Human

New Beginnings and Old Memories

By March 17, 2021

FEATURES

Can Totemism Save The World?

By March 15, 2021

FEATURES

Thrift Store Gentrification

By March 12, 2021

GUEST BLOGGERS

(Almost) Legally Blonde

By March 12, 2021

Entertainment Analysis

Entertainment Analysis: Fight Club (1999)

By March 11, 2021

The Art Outlet

Everyday Art

By March 10, 2021

Celestial Conversations

Zodiac Signs And What They Represent

By March 9, 2021

GUEST BLOGGERS

Terry And Reality

By March 8, 2021

Talking With Taylor

My Typical Day At Kent State

By March 5, 2021
To Top