Connect with us

The Burr Magazine

The Final Challenge: Perspective

Challenger

The Final Challenge: Perspective

Lately, when someone asks me how I’m doing, I answer, “It’s been up and down.”

That’s the perfect description of this semester. 

It’s been four months since I moved into my freshman dorm with a girl I barely knew. I was three and half hours north of home, nervous and excited to tackle my first semester at Kent State’s campus.

I’m so grateful for the people I met and the opportunities I had. Now, my roommate is one of my best friends. I’m finishing up classes, I added a minor, and I scheduled for the spring semester. I work in the Student Media office, a job I love. 

As you’ve read, I’ve faced so many challenges this semester. I couldn’t have predicted them all, and I was far from prepared. As I near the end, I can finally look back with some much-needed perspective.

One of the definitions of the word “challenger,” relates to a person who joins a contest. For me, that contest has been against me. Another Burr blog, Procrastination, describes this so well. (Thanks, Sam!)

I cycle through phases of productivity and procrastination, all because of my perfectionist tendencies. I know I need to stay motivated, especially for finals week. However, I also need to learn to give myself grace and time to rest.

My freshman orientation class recently covered burnout and self-criticism. My professor talked about the book “Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle” by Amelia Nagoski and Emily Nagoski. 

The twin sisters with doctorates share their experiences and research about the cycle I mentioned, which they call the “stress cycle.” The Nagowski sisters discuss that stress used to be for more practical and physical reasons with a goal in mind. For example, if you run a race, you can be stressed during the middle of it. At the end, you cool down and complete your stress cycle.

They suggest ways to end the stress cycle: Movement, a 20-second hug or sleep. 

My professor also covered self-criticism, something I am very often guilty of. Self-criticism is an important step of growth, but I can criticize myself too much sometimes. She suggested a set of four steps or questions to address these problems:

  1. What is the criticism?
  2. Is the criticism valid or invalid? What evidence do you have?
  3. If the criticism is valid, how can I phrase it with more empathy for myself? If it is invalid, dismiss it.
  4. Where is this coming from?

Although I just heard these steps for the first time last week, I know they will be useful throughout my future. For those of you who are your own biggest challenger, use these ideas to give yourself grace as you grow. 

SUPPORT STUDENT MEDIA

We are full-time students and hard-working journalists. While we get support from the student media fee and earned revenue such as advertising, both of those continue to decline. Your generous gift of any amount will help enhance our student experience as we grow into working professionals. Please go here to donate.

Continue Reading
Click to comment

You must be logged in to post a comment Login

Leave a Reply

More in Challenger

Facebook

Trending

Staff Playlists

Playlists

Playlist: Rhythms and Raincoats

By November 23, 2021

Playlists

Playlist: Cozy Study Vibes

By November 1, 2021

Playlists

Playlist: Spooky Scary

By October 26, 2021

Playlists

Playlist: Heartbreak Songs

By February 27, 2021

Playlists

Playlist: On Our Radar

By February 13, 2021

Recent Stories

Season of Justice

Evelyn Kay Day

By May 11, 2021

Entertainment Analysis

Dead Poets Society

By May 11, 2021

The Art Outlet

My Journey As An Artist

By May 5, 2021

Celestial Conversations

Taurus Season

By May 5, 2021

Talking With Taylor

Trying Budget-Friendly Recipes

By April 30, 2021

Picture Books Aren't Just For Kids

Bridge To Terabithia

By April 29, 2021

A Step Forward

A Step Forward #6

By April 27, 2021

Season of Justice

Esther Hollis And “Crime Junkie”

By April 26, 2021

FEATURES

Off The Hook

By April 23, 2021

Greetings from the Burr Magazine

Black Lives Matter: Moving Forward

By April 7, 2021

Celestial Conversations

April Forecast!

By April 6, 2021

GUEST BLOGGERS

Kent Love Blooms Every Spring

By April 5, 2021

Picture Books Aren't Just For Kids

“Charlotte’s Web”

By April 1, 2021

Real, Good, Human

Feed Your Soul, Feed Your Pocket

By March 31, 2021

A Step Forward

A Step Forward #5

By March 30, 2021

Celestial Conversations

What Do The Planets Represent In Astrology?

By March 23, 2021

GUEST BLOGGERS

Coffee Connoisseur

By March 22, 2021

Talking With Taylor

Ways I Relieve Stress

By March 19, 2021

Talking With Taylor

Ways I Relieve Stress

By March 19, 2021

Picture Books Aren't Just For Kids

The Books of Roald Dahl

By March 18, 2021

A Step Forward

A Step Forward #4

By March 17, 2021

Real, Good, Human

New Beginnings and Old Memories

By March 17, 2021

FEATURES

Can Totemism Save The World?

By March 15, 2021

FEATURES

Thrift Store Gentrification

By March 12, 2021

GUEST BLOGGERS

(Almost) Legally Blonde

By March 12, 2021

Entertainment Analysis

Entertainment Analysis: Fight Club (1999)

By March 11, 2021

The Art Outlet

Everyday Art

By March 10, 2021

Celestial Conversations

Zodiac Signs And What They Represent

By March 9, 2021

GUEST BLOGGERS

Terry And Reality

By March 8, 2021

Talking With Taylor

My Typical Day At Kent State

By March 5, 2021
To Top