What love language best describes you?

Words by Lillianna DiFini

Valentine’s Day is a special day dedicated to proving to your loved ones just how much they mean to you. Oftentimes, love and value on Valentine’s Day is demonstrated through decorative cards, special gifts, bouquets of flowers and, most importantly, overpriced chocolate.

Regardless of your opinion on this particular holiday, there are certain aspects relating to love that many individuals tend to never think about. Due to different personality traits as well as personality characteristics, each individual tends to show and receive love in one of five different ways: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch.

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, we are going to discuss these five different types of love languages. Furthermore, I included an online quiz where I will explain my own love language according to my results.

The first type of love language, words of affirmation, describes individuals who value verbal compliments. No matter how meaningful these compliments may be, this type of love language reaffirms their value based off of other’s words. 

The second love language, acts of service, relates to any individual who believes in the phrase “actions speak louder than words.” This love language describes individuals who value those actions and go out of their way to complete acts that are meaningful to their significant other, whether this be cooking their favorite meal or simply opening a door for them. 

Receiving gifts is a particularly self-explanatory love language. Those who relate to this language adore receiving tangible items that make them feel appreciated. 

Quality time, the fourth love language, means that an individual most highly values one-on-one attention between them and their partner. People who identify with this love language desire complete and total attention from their significant other while spending meaningful time together. 

The last love language, physical touch, is also rather self-identifiable. Individuals who identify with this love language feel the most adored and appreciated through physical contact. 

Now that each love language is covered, I decided to delve deeper into my own research and determine what love language I best identify with. With the particular quiz I included, you can best determine your love language by setting the quiz to what relationship and age status best defines you. After a short initial setup, your quiz will be underway! 

My personal results listed the five different love languages in order of what most applies to me based on my responses to the quiz. Quality time was the love language that applied the most to me. Following this love language in order were words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts and physical touch. 

Understanding your own personal love language will help you better assess the ways in which you feel the most valued and appreciated. Furthermore, understanding each of the five different love languages will help you better interpret the needs of your loved ones as well as the best methods of making them feel the most loved and appreciated. I encourage readers to take the quiz listed below and to elaborate on your results with family and friends!

Take the quiz here:

Information source: 

Love, Crated with. “The 5 Love Languages® And What They Mean.” Crated With Love, 25 Oct. 2019, cratedwithlove.com/blog/five-love-languages-and-what-they-mean/

Responding to a Daunting College Inquiry

Words by Lillianna DiFini

Every student has been asked the same daunting question before, regardless of whether they are an incoming college freshman or a third-year student coming back home to visit family members on a holiday break. It seems as if everyone probes this question to all college students, regardless of their relation to the person asking. Strangers, friends, family members and even professors all inquire about this same exact question. 

This particular question, for some, is quite easy to respond to with a clear-cut answer that they planned for years leading up to their college career. However, for others, this particular topic of discussion brings upon feelings of anxiety and a rush of thoughts surrounding their future and whether or not they will ever be able to choose the correct pathway for themselves. “What is your major?”

Throughout my senior year of high school, not only was everyone curious where their peers chose to go to college, but everyone wanted to know what their classmates would be studying. Especially during the few months leading up to move-in day, I was constantly asked “What is your major?” by seemingly every individual I talked to. From my perspective, this question was very difficult to answer. However, I am here to tell you that there are plenty of other students who are in the same exact place.

From my personal experience, I was not an incoming college student who knew exactly what they wanted to study for the next four years. However, there are a few helpful tips I can provide to students who are in this same place and who may be struggling to decide what major to choose. These tips helped me significantly in decreasing the number of major options that did not pertain to my personal interests. Ultimately, this led me to choose a major that I am extremely interested in and love. 

Narrowing down your interests is the first step in determining a major that you would be interested in and would be beneficial to your own personality. In my experience, I knew I wanted to work around people and avoid desk jobs. Taking your interests and passions into consideration is a great way to rule out any majors that do not fit your specific personality. 

Another great tip for students who are confused about choosing a major would be to take a look into your own personality. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? Do you prefer to work face-to-face with others, or would you rather communicate over a screen? Assessing your own personality will help you narrow down potential majors that will lead to careers that match your own personal traits. 

However, if this seems a bit too daunting, it is always a great idea to take a look into completing online personality quizzes. I know this sounds exactly like what a high school teacher would say, but there are several personality tests online that also recommend careers that fit your personality. These tests will give you an idea of careers that fit your own personality traits that you may never have thought of before. 

Although choosing a college major may seem like a life sentence, there are several ways to switch majors and choose a pathway that you truly love. After following these tips, students who are confused about what major to choose will be more in tune with their own interests, ultimately leading them to be several steps closer to finding a major that fits themselves the best!